How To...#3 - Deal With Difficult People
In our October and November series, we'll be looking at many "How To" topics from God's perspective.
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Grace Church holds a Meet & Greet for those who are newer to Grace Church on the 4th Sunday of each month. Our next Meet & Greet will be held on October 27th following the service in CJ's coffee shop. It is a great opportunity to meet the staff and leadership of Grace Church and learn a little more about the church. It also gives us an opportunity to learn a little about you! Contact Leslie Booher if you have any questions ([email protected]).
Church Work Days each Saturday in October 9:00 am to Noon.
Come help us prepare the church property for winter! Contact Ryan Hickey ([email protected]) with questions.
Come help us prepare the church property for winter! Contact Ryan Hickey ([email protected]) with questions.
CJ's coffee shop will be open on Wednesday nights 6:00-7:30 pm. This is a great time to invite others and "pull up a chair" to have conversations.
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Our church database, Breeze Church Management, has notified us of a new federal requirement regarding texts sent from Breeze.On October 23rd, any church member that has been texted in the last 30 days, will receive the following message: "Grace Church is verifying you want to receive reminders & alerts from Breeze ChMS. Reply YES to opt-in, STOP to cancel. Msg&data rates may apply."
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Sunday, October 20th - Paul Adrianson
Tuesday, October 22nd - Melissa Mater
Wednesday, October 23rd - Dalton Rose
Thursday, October 24th - Autumn Lawless, Bastien Noteboom, Doralee Scott
Friday, October 25th - Dayton & Sara Walker
Saturday, October 26th - Steve Sterkenburg
Tuesday, October 22nd - Melissa Mater
Wednesday, October 23rd - Dalton Rose
Thursday, October 24th - Autumn Lawless, Bastien Noteboom, Doralee Scott
Friday, October 25th - Dayton & Sara Walker
Saturday, October 26th - Steve Sterkenburg
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Our memory verse this month - 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
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16 Rejoice at all times.
17 Pray without ceasing.
18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
17 Pray without ceasing.
18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
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Our Fall series is entitled "How To". Each week a topic will be added to make a complete statement. These topics will be looked at from God's perspective. So far in this series we've covered How to be a Friend and How to Pray.
Today we're talking about those people who get under your skin, annoy you, and are just not that fun to be around. They are the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy one. Well known pastor, Rick Warren, calls them crazy makers.
Today we're talking about those people who get under your skin, annoy you, and are just not that fun to be around. They are the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy one. Well known pastor, Rick Warren, calls them crazy makers.
I'm sure all of us can think of at least one person who has made our life difficult.
How do we know who the difficult people in our lives are? Pastor Warren uses some simple descriptions to identify these types of people...and remember, you could possibly be one of them.
How do we know who the difficult people in our lives are? Pastor Warren uses some simple descriptions to identify these types of people...and remember, you could possibly be one of them.
Here is a brief description for five of the most common types of difficult people in our lives.
1. DEMANDING people are the little dictators of life.
- bossy, pushy, intimidating, controlling
- their conversations tend to be about what someone else should do or do for them
- they see others as their servants, have a sense of entitlement, and have difficulty understanding the feelings, boundaries, and capacities of others.
1. DEMANDING people are the little dictators of life.
- bossy, pushy, intimidating, controlling
- their conversations tend to be about what someone else should do or do for them
- they see others as their servants, have a sense of entitlement, and have difficulty understanding the feelings, boundaries, and capacities of others.
2. DISAPPROVING people are the nit pickers.
- critical, negative, judgmental, perfectionists
- they look at others through a subjective and idealist set of standards and let you know that your best is rarely good enough.
- critical, negative, judgmental, perfectionists
- they look at others through a subjective and idealist set of standards and let you know that your best is rarely good enough.
3. DEAFENING people are the megaphones of life.
- they use words and volume to promote what is important to themselves and like to argue.
- they are not good listeners, they push for agreement, and will often seek to talk you into surrender.
- they use words and volume to promote what is important to themselves and like to argue.
- they are not good listeners, they push for agreement, and will often seek to talk you into surrender.
4. DESTRUCTIVE people are the volatile.
- anger issues; like a volcano, they could smolder or erupt suddenly
- they can cause fear and uncertainty because of some irritability, insecurity, or inability to deal with a situation.
- anger issues; like a volcano, they could smolder or erupt suddenly
- they can cause fear and uncertainty because of some irritability, insecurity, or inability to deal with a situation.
5. DEMEANING people are the caustic and sarcastic.
- have little regard for people and their circumstances in life
- have no filter
- always have a comment that could be rude, disrespectful, crass and insulting
- they take joy in being a bubble burster as they like to deflate a person's dreams, achievements, and worth.
- have little regard for people and their circumstances in life
- have no filter
- always have a comment that could be rude, disrespectful, crass and insulting
- they take joy in being a bubble burster as they like to deflate a person's dreams, achievements, and worth.
As Christians who want to influence people for the Lord, it's important that we learn how to Biblically deal with the difficult people who we will encounter in life.
The Scriptures provide numerous examples and principles as to how we are to manage our relationships. This morning we'll focus on just four actions we can take.
The Scriptures provide numerous examples and principles as to how we are to manage our relationships. This morning we'll focus on just four actions we can take.
1. We must DETERMINE not to be offended.
We have to keep from taking personal offense to the difficult people in life. How do we do this?
- Consider the source. Proverbs 12:16 [GNT]
- Look beyond the insult at their behavior. Proverbs 19:11; 10:12
We have to keep from taking personal offense to the difficult people in life. How do we do this?
- Consider the source. Proverbs 12:16 [GNT]
- Look beyond the insult at their behavior. Proverbs 19:11; 10:12
Proverbs 12:16
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16 A fool’s anger is known at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
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Proverbs 19:11
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11 A man’s insight gives him patience, and his virtue is to overlook an offense.
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Proverbs 10:12
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12 Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all transgressions.
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2. We must CHOOSE not to gossip about them.
Proverbs 17:9; 1 Peter 3:9
What's gossip? One definition is that gossip is sharing information with somebody who's not a part of the solution or a part of the problem.
The worst thing about gossip is when you start gossiping about difficult people, it means they win.
Proverbs 17:9; 1 Peter 3:9
What's gossip? One definition is that gossip is sharing information with somebody who's not a part of the solution or a part of the problem.
The worst thing about gossip is when you start gossiping about difficult people, it means they win.
Proverbs 17:9
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9 Whoever conceals an offense promotes love, but he who brings it up separates friends.
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1 Peter 3:9
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9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
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3. We must REFUSE to play their game.
2 Corinthians 4:2 [NLT]
Thomas Paine, one of the founding fathers of America, said this, "to argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead."
Don't engage a quarrelsome person...refuse to play their game.
2 Corinthians 4:2 [NLT]
Thomas Paine, one of the founding fathers of America, said this, "to argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead."
Don't engage a quarrelsome person...refuse to play their game.
2 Corinthians 4:2
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2 Instead, we have renounced secret and shameful ways. We do not practice deceit, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by open proclamation of the truth, we commend ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God.
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4. We must TAKE the high ground.
Romans 12:14, 17-18 [NLT]
We have very little control over how people treat us; their attitudes and actions. But we do have 100% control over how we respond. We please God when we respond with grace, love, and kindness. Our motivation to do this comes from our obedience to God and a desire to be like Jesus.
Romans 12:14, 17-18 [NLT]
We have very little control over how people treat us; their attitudes and actions. But we do have 100% control over how we respond. We please God when we respond with grace, love, and kindness. Our motivation to do this comes from our obedience to God and a desire to be like Jesus.
Romans 12:14, Romans 12:17-18
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14 Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse.
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody.
18 If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone.
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody.
18 If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone.
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There are two ways you can apply this message to your life today:
- Think of that difficult person in your life. You can pray for them, be Jesus to them in word and deed, allow God to change them as He sees fit, and to grow you.
- If you see some of these traits in your life, then you need to repent before God, seek help and assistance, and if needed ask forgiveness from those whose life you have made difficult.
- Think of that difficult person in your life. You can pray for them, be Jesus to them in word and deed, allow God to change them as He sees fit, and to grow you.
- If you see some of these traits in your life, then you need to repent before God, seek help and assistance, and if needed ask forgiveness from those whose life you have made difficult.
